We employ a diffractive methodology (Barad, 2007), which starts in the midst of things with a rich description of an event in the Buggeiri indigenous garden witnessed by the headteacher and the third author. The first diffraction is based on the headteacher’s notes written after the ‘Encounters with Mud’ event as he reflects and worries about the seemingly unequal attention given by the mother and father to their baby as she immerses herself in messy play with fake mud. The second diffraction opens up further musing about the role of fathers living precarious lives based on the third author’s and a co-researcher’s conversations with fathers attending the Curious Play activity. The child-mother, child-father interactions are next diffracted through Daniel’s Stern’s (2010) concept ‘Forms of Vitality’ and Jane Bennett’s (2010) ‘Vibrant Matters’ to speculate about the affective charge of matters such as mud, bodies and the aesthetics of play areas which include mess. This diffraction involves our collective academic reading and conversations among the three authors, which opens up issues of freedom and constraint alongside social class, poverty, gender and race. The fourth and final diffraction involves the first and third authors rifting off Mary Douglas’s text ‘Purity and Danger’ to think about social norms (Hegarty, 2007) the force of actions once framed within institutional contexts such as schools, and the potential for artful resistance by whom and where. The diffractions have been created with a commitment to an ethico-onto-epistemological (Barad, 2007) approach to research which recognises that stories are interventions that become actants in their own right and have the capacity to move others for good or ill. We tell diffractive stories in order to spread hope among the teaching profession in Europe and beyond strangled by neoliberal, capitalist and colonial policy contexts.